Last week I had the privilege of staying with my friend Lynn and her daughter at their beautiful vacation hacienda in Todos Santos, Mexico.  Another friend joined us, as did a friend of Lynn’s daughter.

We were five women—young and middle age—inhaling the fresh mountain air and soaking up the jacaranda trees, hummingbirds, and friendly residents. I count the invitation to my friend’s home among my riches—the abundance I’m ever grateful for.

Whenever I travel with my sisters and cousins, we pool our money together into a “kitty,” an envelope of cash managed by a self-appointed treasurer.

We ante up at the start of the trip so gas, road food, tolls, and anything we spend as a group gets shared.  The kitty is a simple equalizer, so no one has to feel she is paying more or less than her share or be a big shot by picking up the tab when the bill comes.  We avoid the awkwardness that arises when it’s time to buy groceries.

My sister Mary Ann coined a joke:  “the kitty makes a mockery of money!,” meaning when the check comes, you don’t have to pay! Cause you already have. Go ahead. Order the extra dessert to share. We’re rich because of the kitty.

In Mexico, I suggested we try the kitty.  Whenever I recommend this method with newcomers, I always feel a little hesitant.  Will folks feel it’s a little persnickety? Old school? Unnecessary?  I’ve noticed when I’ve suggested it in mixed company, men often dismiss it or flat-out refuse. I always wonder why.

Lynn, Amy, and the others agreed to try it.  Amy fetched the envelope and penned a drawing of a kitten on the outside of the envelope.  She offered to be treasurer because she was good at handling pesos.

We drew parameters around the kitty as we went.  Since Amy’s friend was a student, we agreed she only had to contribute half, even when we ante’d up. If anyone wanted to buy something personal, like a souvenir or clothing, that wouldn’t come out of the kitty.  But when we all went to the sweet little shop for helado, we got extra scoops. Why? Because the kitty makes a mockery of money.

Money left in the kitty at the end of the trip gets divided. This time, because we had stayed at Lynn’s home, we let her keep the remainder to cover expenses  from hosting us.

So next time you travel, try a kitty.  Not only will it help you keep track of how much you spend, but the kitty also thumbs its nose at restraint or overspending on holiday.  Go ahead. Order another guacamole and chips.  It’s on the kitty.